How to break up with my boyfriend without hurting him?

Everytime we talk about something he is always like if you dont start speaking up im hanging up and we are done or if you go hang out with your friend zac we are done. Its like he is threatening me and I dont know what to do. I mean like I want to but everytime its always like he is hurting himself when im talking to him by punching the door and cutting himself....and it changes my mind. What do I do?How to break up with my boyfriend without hurting him?
You need to worry about yourself. Your boyfriend is mentally unstable. He is the one hurting you, and he's guilt tripping you everytime you try to leave him. Nobody has any right to tell you that you can't hang out with your friends. If he claims that if you hang out with Zac then it's over, go ahead and do it. He's making you miserable. If he wants to punch a door and cut himself, he can go ahead and do it, that doesn't mean he has to drag you down with him! It is not your fault he does this. He needs to get some professional help, and I'm not trying to sound like a smart *** or anything, I'm being serious. Good luck.How to break up with my boyfriend without hurting him?
First thought, toxic relationship. Ask yourself, are you putting more into the relationship than your b/f? Life is about balance. Suggest he needs to get help if you truly believe he is self-destructive, and that until he does, you and he are not to be. Never compromise your values and how you like to be treated for anyone or anything. Be strong, and stronger... He might realize he needs to grow a little or straighten out some stuff before he can be with someone. Again, don't compromise what you want out of life for anything or anyone. I'm sure there are a hundred-plus that would rejoice the opportunity to know you better than just as friends. Take care, and don't think of leaving him as hurting him, rather helping him become a better person. Just don't do it in a cheap way, such as an e-mail, or phone call, rather in person. It shows great care and respect when you talk like humans face to face. Good Luck!
to brake it too him softly but not leaving anything to his imagine, say you don't want to stay in a relationship with him, that he is just not the right person for you. tell him he has great potentional but he has to stop being so dramatic, tell him one relationship is nothing compared to life. say that you will both move on and have the rest of your life to meet people, so that he might as well save himself pain and accept the fact. trying to put it in perspective will really help. also tell him that if he is going to try and make you feel guilty its not going to work, in that he has bigger problems he needs to deal with before a relationship anyways. then I would suggest anonymously telling a parent or counselor if you go to the same school that he is cutting, this is extremely crucial, even though he is probably doing it for attention if you don't tell someone and he kills himself it will be on your shoulders for the rest of your life, a little relationship that would have meant nothing could haunt you forever, it will be in a way closure to let his family know so that its not in your hands at all anymore. that way they can help him and you can have a free-er conscious. either way you have to live for yourself, and in a way you are doing him a favor too anyways.
Tell him how you feel, holding all these feelings in is never a good thing you might even end up hating him if you keep holding it in. Just be nice about it don't scream at him or go off on him just sit with him normal and talk about it tell him what bothers you why and how you feel and if you don't want to tell him in person give him a letter or by the phone but person to persons better. Hope this helps
Okay, you need to leave this relationship as swiftly as you can. It seems like he's blackmailing you, and being emotionally abusive. Also it's like he's jealous. You don't need someone like that in your life. Just tell him, ';Look, I think we need some time alone to think of where this relationship is going.'; If he throws a fit, then you need to leave. Just leave.
hey,y do u think break up.he is perfect,if u love more than the world,u must behave like him.so try o understand his situation then think abt him,break up is a simple matter,bt later u must feel abt that.so think urself.it is better,dont take decision while u tens.o best of luck,ry to love him,if u love truely,though he does mistake,u will take it easy.so understand,dont be hurry.
I think you should tell his mum or a close family member that can help him. Get him to see a psychiatrist or someone that can get him straight in the head. After he looks less suicidal, break up with him. People like him can drag you down with them and your life ends up getting wasted.


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You won't be able to.


Might as well marry him and have his kids against your will.
Take him up on his offer. Talk to Zac, he's just looking for attention and misery loves company. If you felt bad for everyone for something you'd get nowhere in life, especially with this looney loser.
Thats because he is trying to grip that handle of control on you so you wont leave him,


be warned after control comes abuse.
you need to leave, life is too short to spend it with someone you dont love and arent happy with, if you dont love him anymore, then what exactly are you waiting for?, your only hurting him more.














GL !
if hes hurting himself, its just a way to make you feel guilty %26amp; stay with him. its a bad idea to be in a relationship with someone who acts the way you described. just end it to make things easier on you.
Just be honest and tell it to him like it is. He is an idiot and you respect yourself enough to know that you are worth more and deserve better than him!
u both try 2 have a conversation on this matter, find out where the problem is, u both must try 2 understand eachother, and when its ur turn 2 speak out the things just dont b harsh at ur language try 2 b calm nd polite
Andrey is right.


He isn't the one for you.


You don't deserve to be held down, it's clearly not progressing so what's the point.


Good luck :)
He sounds like a possessive weirdo. I'd dump him if I were in your shoes. Don't worry about hurting him. If we all worried about hurting every ones feelings we would never get anything done.
this kid cuts himself and threatens you, what the hell are your with him for, get out NOWWWW!!!!
Turn up with your new boyfriend, that should tip him right over the edge.


Jesus H Christ, just tell him he is a loser and is blackmailing you.
2 simple lines.....This are`nt working out....I can`t see you anymore....Say that and let the chips fall where they may....
well when he says if you do this we are through just say kep we are though bye and hang up is really simple like everyone else


ITS NOT GOOD


so dump is sorry butt and find someone better :)
Just dump him, he is not right for you. Just tell him in person that you two are through. That's it. Good luck!
then just hang out with zac till he dumps u..so then he wont be hurt..coz he dumped. :S
you go on with this abusive relationship:You will have no one to blame but yourself
my ex was the same way... just sing or send him this... it may not be true but itll make him feel better and at some point god might give him some one who is better for him then you and can handle him better but the whole black mailing you thing is lame ... break ups hurt but youll both get over it














Just Fine';





Heeyy, uh, ummmm, heey, oh girl, oh girl





We did everything we could do


To try to make it work (we did, we did)


Baby, you look so confused, cause it feels like, there was no way we could lose (no way, no way)


Baby, I just don't know why I can't find the things you need in me (I can't, I can't girl)


Baby, they know just know what to say, they trying to break us away from one another, but maybe their right for a change





I think, God will give you someone,


Much better than me, trust me


Your eyes will be O.K. it will be alright.


You'll be just fine (just fine, just fine)





I know that baby we would disagree constantly on the basic things (we did, we did)


You thought that there was someone else, all along (no way, no way)


Baby I want to decide to stay right by your side


Baby, they know just what to say.


They wanna keep us away from one another


But Maybe they're right for a change





I think, God will give you someone,


Much better than me, trust me


Your eyes will be O.K. (O.K.), alright (alright), just fine (just fine)





I know, baby, baby, baby can't you see that another fella just may be the kinda man that you need


You deserve it and I know that


I know another love has come your way, just listen to me when I say


You'll find him (you'll find him) be patient





I think, God will give you someone,


So much better than me, trust me


Your eyes will be O.K., it will alright, it will be just fine (just fine)





(Cause I know that baby)


I think, God will give you someone (someone better),


Better than me, trust me girl


(no more pain) O.K.,


(no more pain) Alright,


It will be just fine (just fine)





Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey


(You wanna know why I'm sure)


(sure, sure)