How to break up with boyfriend of 2 years?

my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years now and for a while i thought he was the one, but lately i feel like ive fallen out of love with him. I've tried to break up with him before, but he gets so upset and i end up taking him back out of pure pity. i KNOW i need to stop stringing him along but i dont know how to do so without one of us crying or the other one yelling.How to break up with boyfriend of 2 years?
I had the same thing with my boyfriend of 6 years. I wanted to end it so bad, but found it hard. We weren't the greatest for like 6 months. We got back on track now though.





You just have to do it, and not take him back.How to break up with boyfriend of 2 years?
Oh gosh this sucks :(


Well not breaking up because it makes YOU feel bad is kind of selfish (so you can use that as an excuse)


Tell him...


';I've been really selfish for not breaking up with you because i think deep down, I didn't want to live with my conscience knowing i hurt you. for a while now i've come to the conclusion that i haven't been feeling the same as i used to about you. i'm sorry I've been wasting your time (because i thought i could fix things on my own, but) now that i think about it, You probably would have found someone new and moved on and been with someone who loves you as much as you love her. I love you enough that i want you to get up and move on with your life without me and be happy.';


We both know that he's still going to kick and scream and cry but i really do think this is the best thing you could tell him after two years. :-\
Nikki I have a question for you. Can you look him straight in the eye and say ';I don't love you anymore.';? If you can than you need to do as you suggested and stop stringing him along.





Break-ups of long term relationships are hard mainly because most people do not want to start ';over'; as it were. I fell into that same vicious circle. I would say enough to my girlfriend and she would cry and argue that she would change. And for a while things would get a bit better but then she would say enough to me and both of us would be upset. And the circle went on and on.





You may just have to grit your teeth and talk to him and tell him your not in love with him anymore because it appears for your end, it is truly over. Trust me it won't be easy for either one of you but it must be done and there is no easy way to do it.
this happened when my gf dumped me, so i feel bad for the guy. Try this first take him out on dates exactly like when u first started dating then try new things it might bring you closer together. (wish my gf would have) then if that dont work break up over the phone and avoid him cold turkey its the only way my x tried to ';be friends'; but it made it worse till she finally cut me off cold turkey(glad she did i never would have changed).
If you don't love him anymore, and you can't see it working out, I'd advise just doing the breakup and not thinking about it until afterward. Tell him why you've taken him back the other times, and put it to him that if he really wants you happy, he can't keep you.


Don't yell, remain cool and detached. The same goes if he starts crying, just stay cool. Imagine that you're just watching this happen from an outside perspective in a movie or something if that's helpful for you. If he seems civil, you might offer a friendship, but I'd advise waiting a few months on that.


Good luck to you.
In a nice way talk to him and tell him u are falling out of love with him. yeah u do need to stop stringing him along cause thats only hurting him. if u talk to him in nice way he shouldnt yell at you. either way you do it u may feel sad but u will get over that and he may be heartbroken but he will get over it to after while. hope that helps u. good luck!
I think crying at the end of a relationship is really good. It shows that there was real love there and it needs to get out. And I'm a guy. Do not be afraid of it.





And don't at all worry that it takes a long time to get out of it. It just shows that you care for him. You have to do it. I think the fact that you've done it a couple of times will actually help him. But be careful, he knows how to get under you. Just sit down with him on a Friday and tell him it's just time to move on, Tell a close trusted male friend of his too to help him out. Why Friday? It will give a chance to get his life back together and let you go. He cries because it is like losing a friend. It's not a bad thing. You just have to do it.
You need to figure out where your priorities lie first.


If he's not one of them, then you need to let him know that in 2009, you would rather see other people. Maybe you should suggest he date other people too, little by little you'll grow further apart and then he should be better about not being withyou. Maybe you guys could just be friends. Just be niceabout it and sensitive, I'm sure he'll get over it eventually.
Hi Nikki





Nag him


Don't wash your hair


Be late


Don't return calls


Talk about other guys/ex boyfriends


look at other guys


Never smile or laugh


Be even more irrational


Ignore him


Don't be kind or loving


Build up some resentment


Don't initiate any touching


When he goes to kiss you offer your cheek


ect, ect...


and when he asks whats going off say ';do I have to hold a gun to your head? - Its over!';





I think you know what to do.





Kind regards


Justin.
I'm sorry to hear that but... sit him down tell him it's over in a nice way and say ';we can still be friends it's not you it's me your a great guy but just not mine. I'm sorry but I have to break up with you';. If he gets angry or something just say I'm sorry and walk away. You'll get over it so will he don't worry. Please help me answer my questions too. Thanks bye!
You'll just have to be firm with him. Don't worry about the tears or yelling. A guy whom I loved but wasn't in love with did the same thing very many years ago. He even drove three hours to profess his love to me and I turned him back. It was very hard, but we're better off for it.
Perhaps give back any gifts from him.


Write him a letter. Go into as much detail as possible to explain breaking up. A letter is better than E-mail. Tell him to never contact you again. If he calls hang up. If you see him on the street refuse to say a word. Avoid being any place he might be.
sorry i cant give advice to a mccain/palin nut