How do I break up with my boyfriend who I have been dating for 3 years?

Neither one of us did anything wrong, its just that im only 21 and hes only 23 we are both still young we shoud be going out and having fun with other ppl our age not sitting at home like we do acting like an old married couple? Am i wrong in wanting to do this? because i love him with all my heart i just want time to be a young adult you know. How do I take care of this with out breaking his heart?How do I break up with my boyfriend who I have been dating for 3 years?
just tell him how you feelHow do I break up with my boyfriend who I have been dating for 3 years?
Is it really needed to break up? You should try asking him if you'd like to go out sometime. Breaking up won't help at all.
You don't have to break up with him. Just tell him you need a girls night out and he needs to go out with the guys.
while not gonna lie, its going to be extremely painful for both of u. just talk to him about it all, I mean u guys both love each other so talk and remember try not to argue. But if your both happy why f@ck it up.
In my opinion yes... this is wrong.





If you want to enjoy life then why not do it with him? It seems like you don't love him the way you think you do if you want to break it up with him. You could also go out and hang with your friends for fun.





If you are talking about sleeping around then he deserves better anyways. I am not trying to be mean but I just hate that slutty act of sleeping with 2903429034 guys then finding a guy and saying he is your one.... when you have had 23094802.
There is no way, he will be heart broken no matter what you say.
no your actually a smart girl to wanna have fun out in the open instead of staying inside like a married couple:) i understand you love him with all your heart but im sorry to say that if you break up with him it will still hurt him no matter what, the best you can do is tell it to him straight, and hope that he will get over it:) it will make you feel better and he will feel better knowing that you told him something that you wanted to tell him without leaving him hanging:)





hope this helps:)
thats not love. if you loved the guy you would make time for him, and do things with him, and not away from him. you should be worried about education and a career, and family. this day and age, there wont be any time for ';having fun';. and if you really wanna break up with him, i hope you tell him the truth. you will regret it.
are you sure breaking up is the correct answer? ...if you love him..and he loves you then you should want to make it work around all that. You can still go out alone, he can still go out alone or with eachother you just developed yourselfs in a pattern. this can cause alot of stress because if you both still love eachother it can cause jelousy esp. if he decides to find someone new or vise versa..





maybe before you leave him you can say hey babe, lets go out someware or tell him to have a mans night out or your goin out with the girls or something and try it like taht first tell him you want thigns to chance and see what happens in the next couple weeks. if nothing changes and your unhappy then just explain that ntohings chnaging and this is what you wanna do and go do you
You should try to make it work first. Do something different to spice things up. If things don't work out try to be gentle. Put yourself in his shoes and think ';How would I like to be dumped?';
move in with him. or if you tell him how you feel truth fully youll never see him again. No guy wants some ***** to tag along.
Wow, I just went through this same situation myself a few months ago (we're even the same age as you guys!)





What I would recommend is this. Take a break for a while and see other people, but try to stay friends. You might find without each other you appreciate each other more (this is what happened with us).





Also, if you attend a university, look into couples' counseling. A lot of health services offer it free and you're never too young to work on a relationship you're serious about.





If none of the above work, be sure to tell him how much you treasure his friendship and assure him he didn't do anything wrong. He'll still be angry and hurt, but if you're kind and direct about things he probably won't hate you after the initial pain passes, and hopefully you two will be able to stay friends.





Best wishes.
It's going to be impossible not to break his heart. I'm glad you are feeling this way now, and not after you get married. Yes, you do need to enjoy your young days. Go out and have fun. Live, laugh, and love. You need to do it now, so you will never regret not doing it. Just be honest with him. Explain to him exactly the same way you worded in your question. Good luck
If you love him, god don't break his heart! Just tell him how you feel!


Maybe he feels the same but he feels like it's going to offend you if he says anything.
Why don't you try planning something at least two or three times a week? Like going to the cinema, going to a disco, or even going some place else like out of the country, I don't know! Just do something that you both like. Tell him how you feel, maybe he might have some ideas himself.


Hope I helped. :)


PS: If you love him, don't break up with him!
say it like you just did
Just tell him how you feel.


Be honest with him.


It's not the end of the world.





If you guys were meant to be, god will bring you's back to each other some day : )
Honestly.


You are not missing much.


I've been going out with my boyfriend for about a year now and we are living together. I've had this thought go through my mind too. But I've come to understand.. that most couples do the whole ';watch movies every night and cuddle'; thing. More couples than you think. You are just in a rut. Try finding out things to go out and do together. And at the same time, go out with some girlfriends like.. once a week at least and ';get away'; from your boyfriend. Everyone needs some space every now and then.
You would eventually break his heart if you don't allow yourself time to grow up. You are doing the right thing. This relationship has run it's course and it is time to move on and experience these years because you can't get them back. When you break up you'll know soon enough if you've done the right thing. You've said it best...';I just want time to be a young adult.'; Who knows, maybe he feels the same way. At the very least, discuss this with him.
You don't have to date other people to go out and have fun. I know what you mean..but it can all be solved by going out with some friends for some away time, then come home to the man you love.%26lt;3


It's not good to be together all the time. Learn to balance being with him and friends. Get out there and live, with and without him. Breaking up would be silly if you love him. Just let him know you want to do more... I really don't recommend leaving someone you've loved this long. You're lucky.
You can't just throw him out like yesterdays trash, that will devastate him, why don't you talk to him and tell him to take you out somewhere, go out to a bar do something and include him, or go out with some girlfriends just talk to him if he loves you i'm sure he'll understand but i wouldn't give up something like that. I mean you're young, but you're not that young. you got to grow up some day don't throw away your future over something so childish.
Umm well first of all you said you love him... then y do u want 2 break up with him... talk to him and tell him how you feel... if u can explain to us complete strangers then im sure u can talk to him and say hey maybe we should hang with our frds... take a road trip with frds... and maybe you'll feel better or maybe you'll realize you dont love him as much as you say you do... you need to take a break from being gf... take a couple days off with frds and see after coming back how you feel... listen to your heart... if you still you should break up then do it but i have a feeling after your break you'll feel better :)
If he doesn't want to take a break, you will break his heart, but do what YOU want. Be honest with him and tell him you want to enjoy yourself without feeling tied down-- that it's somethng you need to do for yourself. Trust me, if you don't-- you will regret it. Don't make him make you feel bad. He'll tell you that you must not love him, all he wants is to be with you and why don't you want to be with him... etc. Blow him off and listen to him vent, but stick to it! I was this way after high school and I wanted to be free. So, I took a break and once I dated other guys, I found different quialites and things I didn't like, too. Date as much as you can so you can see how different guys are, but don't tie yourself down until you're ready. Eventually, I knew just what I wanted in a guy while enjoying myself. I partied, did my thing and later found the guy I was waiting for and I don't mind not going out as much now that we have a baby, because I got to enjoy my youth. I did my crazy partying and now it's time to settle and enjoy the other great things in life like my family. But, when you find the right one, he will go out with you, too AND let you have a girls' night out. Life is short and you need to enjoy it. I still do =)
Loving him and feeling this way is MORE they reason why you should do it .... Break up that is.... You are 100% right!!! Go Go... Enjoy your life whilst you can..... Who knows you might do a full circle and get back together again in a few years if it was meant to be!! and if you dont..... you will have happy memories to look back on .... Life is a journey..... make it a happy one!!..
okay first off!! You guys most not have a healthy relationship if theres lack of communication just tell him how you feel and maybve you guys can start doing things together! If it turns into an arguement just ask this simple question do you think we should break up for good! Your not wrong **** i feel you!!! But if you guys cant stay together and have an agreement an conversate and still do the things you both want then a relationship is not worth you guys trying for maybe a friendship@!!! if you love him alot than you shouldnt even be thinking about going out all theres is out there is trouble maybe you wanta find something new but really if you can try to find out what you both like to do maybe get drinks and go to the pool lounge or bowling alley got to a bar or to a club together or double date retherly fun go to the beach and have apicnic with lobster dinner champagne strawberry and chocalate hey sometimes you have to do things rather than tawk about them do surprises make it interestn and fun if he doesnt want to than thats diff....
well, maybe you don't have to break up with him, rosie.


maybe you should just try to shake things up! like take a trip or make new friends, hump in public lol, all i'm saying just mix it up.


now you love this guy but maybe he's just kinda practical and not so crazy, you can still work this out.


i mean you are not gonna run out the door the second something is not perfect for you right now, are you?!


hold the thought of those first two lines in the question and tell HIM about that, that is a good start.


just remember you don't have to go, you only have to work something out like you would for the rest of your life with guys.


unless something else is wrong with you two, this is a different issue.
You need to have a personal reason for every action you take and it should not be influenced by what other people are doing or aren't doing. Nothing stops you from going out and having fun together with each other or with your friends. Relationships aren't meant to be a form of bondage.You need to ask yourself if you're ready to be with someone and what you want your relationship to be before breaking up with him.Sometimes we don't really know the value of what we have until we lose it.Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. Both of you could find new ways to have fun together as young people between yourselves and among your friends.But if you're still not happy break up,life is too short to live in boredom.Some one must get hurt in a break up,it's inevitable.Just try as you can to make his pain less by being honest and gentle with him.